Family Rituals and Traditions around Christmas time- Part 2 of 2

Family Rituals and Traditions around Christmas time- Part 2 of 2

In the first part of this two-part blog, I discussed the value of family rituals and traditions around Christmas time. The main benefits that were explored in my previous blog were:

  • Family rituals and traditions offer families an opportunity to make new memories and to also recall and process past memories
  • Family members might make it a point to keep their time free from other commitments to be able to adhere to traditions and rituals
  • Family traditions may bridge the gap between the different family generations.

In this second part of the blog, I wished to also speak about how family traditions around Christmas time might also act as a stressor for family members in particular situations. If a family member is, for instance, experiencing financial difficulties, and the family holds a gift-giving tradition on Christmas day, then this family member could experience tension and stress when trying to stick to this family tradition. Another example could be that a family member had experienced a loss or is going through a difficult period, and their family would still wish them to join the celebratory traditions. This is because traditions and rituals might, in a sense, set a standard of what is expected to happen at a particular time of the year, and having to steer away from these standards for whichever reason, might leave a person feeling stressed, ashamed or anxious.

Something that could support a family in such situations is that of having an element of flexibility in their traditions. If it is not realistic to stick to the tradition of grand gift-giving at Christmas time, or if gift-giving is a tradition that will lead to tension and stress, then the family can be creative and develop other strategies that could still lead to the same effect. For instance, a family can decide to give each other a letter or a message. At the end of the day, if we think of the meaning behind gift-giving, it would typically boil down to showing the other person that you have thought of them, and there are many ways to pass this message to someone.

 

 

 

Rebecca Cassar is a Family Therapist practicing the Systemic Approach. She specializes in offering therapy to families, couples and individuals who are experiencing distress in their relationships. She can be contacted on rebecca@willingness.com.mt or call us on 79291817.

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