The Impact of Losing a Partner—And How to Find Support

Losing a partner is one of life’s most painful experiences. Whether due to death, separation, or particular circumstances, the loss can lead to deep emotional, physical, and social challenges. Grief is a natural response, but it varies by intensity from person to person. While the healing journey is deeply personal, seeking support can make a significant difference in coping and rebuilding life after loss.

Emotional Impact

The emotional toll of losing a partner is immense. Many individuals experience feelings of sadness, loneliness, guilt, or sometimes anger. Grief can also trigger anxiety or depression, especially if the loss is sudden or traumatic. Studies suggest that widowed individuals, in particular, are at higher risk for depression and prolonged grief disorder, a condition where grief persists intensely for more than a year and interferes with the daily functioning of the individual (Lichtenthal et al., 2020).

Emotional Impact – Continued

Beyond emotions, cognitive and psychological effects may also emerge. Some people struggle with concentration, decision-making, or memory issues. It is common to feel lost, especially if the partner played a central role in daily life, finances, or household responsibilities. However, understanding that grief is a process can help individuals navigate these changes with self-compassion and patience.

Physical and Social Consequences

The impact of losing a partner can also affect physical health. Studies have shown that grief can lead to sleep disturbances, weakened immune function, and an increased risk of heart problems. The stress brought by the loss can contribute to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as overeating, excessive alcohol consumption, disturbed sleeping patterns and social withdrawal.

Physical and Social Consequences – Continued

From a social perspective, losing a partner often alters relationships and support networks. On one hand, friends and family may struggle to provide the right kind of support, and on the other, the grieving individual may feel isolated and withdrawn. Adjusting to a new routine without a loved one can be particularly challenging, especially for those who have been together for many years.

Moving Forward

Seeking support is crucial for healing. While grief is deeply personal, no one should have to navigate it alone. Support groups, whether in-person or online, provide a space to share experiences with others who have been through a similar experience. Professional counselling or psychotherapy can also help individuals process their emotions and develop coping strategies.

Conclusion

Engaging in meaningful activities, such as volunteering, joining social groups, or pursuing hobbies, can help rebuild a sense of purpose. Taking care of one’s physical health through regular exercise, a balanced diet, and proper sleep is also essential for overall well-being. Although the pain of losing a partner never entirely disappears, with time, support, and self-care, it is possible to heal and find new meaning in life.

Charlot Cauchi is a Gestalt Psychotherapist at Willingness. He specialises in working with adults and the elderly, addressing mental health difficulties, anxiety and depression, grief and loss, trauma, stress, and relational issues.

Reference

Lichtenthal, W. G., Cruess, D. G., & Prigerson, H. G. (2020). The clinical utility of prolonged grief disorder. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 16, 109-126.