Does your life feel like a roller coaster? Are you familiar with the feeling of helplessly travelling on a high speed voyage, which seems to have little purpose and no enjoyment of the journey? If yes, you are part of a vast majority in the modern world. And if you are a member of this statistic, then you know stress well.
Our wellbeing seems to lie one jump ahead of us, always looking for that accomplishment which will set our lives right. When I finish that project, my life will be back on track. When I finish school, my life will be mine. Those on a roller coaster continuously invest in the hope of finding solace in their life in a project which serves as the measure for the upcoming happiness. However, when the project is complete, this is replaced by a new project and therefore the new measure of hope is established again and the prospect of happiness becomes out of reach again.
The Dalai Lama is no academic, however words of wisdom are seldom found in scientific papers. His words are prosperous and speak loudly to those in search of meaning in life. He encourages people to live the moment and savour all experiences. Living in the past, or existing in the future only dim our ability to enjoy life. This is the heart of mindfulness in life. Slow down and become aware of your surroundings. Setting goals in your life is important. But be aware of not postponing happiness to your next goal. There are important things in your today which are precious. Unfortunately the system, media and some cultures push you to think otherwise, pressing you to believe that happiness lies in your next conquest. However, this is untrue. Cherish your experiences of today. I am sure that a weekend break is beautiful, but so is ten minutes with your child in his room.
– Steve Libreri is a social worker and parent coach within Willingness. He offers parent coaching and social work sessions. He can be contacted on steve@willingness.com.mt.