While Valentine’s Day holds a different meaning for different people, many couples seek to do something special with their loved one on the day in order to celebrate their relationship. This can be somewhat tricky and potentially difficult to deal with when your loved one is away, be it for work, studies or because they live in a different country. Be it so, it still does not mean that there is nothing to be done to show your loved one how much they mean to you and that you are thinking of them. Maybe it even pushes you both to be more creative and think outside the box!

I wished to share some simple ideas that could help you and your partner connect and celebrate your relationship on Valentine’s Day even when you are far away from each other.

  • Sending your partner an I-love-you-box

The idea of an I-love-you-box is a simple one but it has the potential to be very meaningful. Gather a small collection of things that you know your partner would appreciate, or that are meaningful to your relationship. This could vary from a few photos of the two of you, maybe a bar of their favorite chocolate, to an old-fashioned hand written letter or notes. Send it by post for your loved one to get in time for Valentine’s Day.

  • Video calling

The perks of today’s technology make it possible for you to still have each other’s company when you are away. The possibility of video calling your partner could help you connect as a couple and could also make the distance seem shorter. You could also try to think of things that could make your date different to your usual call if you regularly video call each other. For instance, prepare a play list of songs that you both like, dress up and chat while you have a meal together, or maybe get cozy and watch the same movie.

  • Plan your own Valentine’s Day

If you and your loved one are planning on traveling to meet up in the near future, then you could spend some time on Valentine’s Day planning what you would both like to do when you get together. If due to the distance you had to miss out on specific things that you wished to do, such as going out for dinner, going for a walk and so on, you can make plans to do that together when you meet.


Neustaedter, C. & Greenberg, S. (2012). Intimacy in Long-Distance Relationships over Video Chat.

Rebecca Cassar is a Family Therapist practicing the Systemic Approach. She specializes in offering therapy to families, couples and individuals who are experiencing distress in their relationships. She can be contacted on rebecca@willingness.com.mt or call us on 79291817.