My girlfriend has Vaginismus | part 1
Vaginismus, as
described in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V)
is a Genito-Pelvic Pain/ Penetration Disorder (Pacik, 2014). It is a
psychosexual disorder that is common in many women, although it is not often
heard of. Not many people know about this condition as it is not often given
attention in our sex education curriculums, and many women who have the
condition don’t mention it out of shame. Having vaginismus means that a woman
experiences difficulty with vaginal penetration of any form, be it during sex, using
tampons, using fingers, or even during medical examinations. Attempting to
penetrate the vagina causes a lot of pain, fear and discomfort.
When a couple tries to attempt sexual intercourse, the muscles of the vagina
automatically go into spasm and tense up, making penetration extremely hard (Munasinghe, Goonaratna & De Silva,
2004). This process often
develops as a defence mechanism that the body uses to protect the person from
anticipated pain and discomfort (“Vaginismus”,
2018).
Vaginismus comes in different types, according to situation and severity. Situational vaginismus is the type where
vaginal spasms happen depending on what is being inserted into the vagina. A
woman may be unable to have sexual intercourse, but able to use a tampon, for
example. Spasmodic vaginismus is another form in which the person feels the
vagina spasm even when they are engaged in activities that may lead up to sex,
such as kissing or foreplay. The most severe form of vaginismus is complete vaginismus,
where a woman cannot withstand any form of penetration of whatever form, and
the possibility of penetration instils fear (Pacik, 2014). Vaginismus is not to
be confused with other conditions that may cause similar pain in the vagina
such as Dyspareunia. Dyspareunia, although also characterised by painful sex,
is often due to physical issues that may be present physiologically, such as
having cysts, vaginal atrophy or pelvic inflammatory disease (Herndon, 2017).
Having this disorder does not hinder a woman from becoming sexually aroused in
other ways. There are other methods of sexual pleasure that can be enjoyed and
that do not necessarily involve penetration of the vagina such as clitoral
stimulation, stimulation of other erogenous zones, and anal sex (“Vaginismus”, 2018). A woman
with vaginismus still retains a healthy libido, and still manages to get wet
when feeling sexually aroused.
The second part
of this blog will focus on some causes of vaginismus and what can be done to
overcome it.
References:
Herndon, J. (2017). Vaginismus: Symptoms, Causes, Treatments, and More. Retrieved 28 January 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/vaginismus#types
Munasinghe, T., Goonaratna, C., & De Silva, P. (2004). Couple characteristics and outcome of therapy in vaginismus. Ceylon Medical Journal, 49(2), 54. doi: 10.4038/cmj.v49i2.3262
Pacik, P. (2014). Understanding and treating vaginismus: a multimodal approach. International Urogynecology Journal, 25(12), 1613-1620. doi: 10.1007/s00192-014-2421-y
Vaginismus. (2018). Retrieved 27 January 2020, from https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vaginismus/
Becky Faenza is one of the Triage Officers that form part of the Triage Team with Willingness. She is a University graduate, with a B.A Degree in Philosophy and Psychology, and also a Higher Diploma in Psychology (H.DIP).
