Managing Challenging Behaviour in Children
Parenting is often seen as a rewarding experience, but when children require professional child counselling, the reality can become quite challenging. Parents often go through a rollercoaster of emotions, especially when their children behave in ways that are difficult to manage or understand. In such cases, exhaustion is common. However, it’s helpful to remember that situations can change and more positive family dynamics are possible.
Opening Up Communication
It can be difficult for parents to start conversations with children who are acting out, as the children might refuse to talk or not realise there’s a problem. One approach is to engage in relaxing activities together, such as going for a walk, cooking, baking, or creative tasks like colouring. If direct conversation is difficult, consider writing a letter or texting to initiate the dialogue.
Setting Boundaries and Leading by Example
Establishing clear boundaries and routines is key. A family agreement covering screen time, mealtimes, and bedtimes can help. When rules are broken, issue a warning and follow up with appropriate consequences. Afterwards, once emotions have settled, revisit the incident to discuss what happened.
Parents should also lead by example—recognising their own triggers, naming emotions, and reacting mindfully. This models emotional awareness for their children.
Encouraging Healthy Expression
Use simple phrases to make it clear that while feelings are valid, certain behaviours—like hitting or shouting—are not acceptable. Aim to understand the child’s perspective with curiosity and without judgment. Reassurance is crucial; remind them they are loved and supported.
Help children discover calming strategies such as drawing, painting, physical activity, listening to music, spending time alone, or journaling—these can also complement professional child counselling when additional support is needed.
Seeking Professional Help
Seeking professional child counselling can offer structured support tailored to your child’s needs. Counselling, therapy, school support, or a visit to the GP can be beneficial. And remember: parents need to care for themselves too. Recharging is essential when supporting children with challenging behaviour.
If you think that you can benefit from professional support on this issue, you can reach out here.
References
Rocker, L. (n.d.). Managing Difficult Behaviour. Retrieved from https://www.childpsychologist.com.au/resources/managing-difficult-behaviour
About the Author
Johanna Cutajar is a Master in Counselling graduate from the University of Malta. She works with children and adolescents as a counsellor within the education sector on a variety of issues, including relationship issues, trauma, bereavement, transitions, and general mental health.
