Keeping up with our day-to-day needs and existing within the systems which we all form part of (such as; work environments, friendships, romantic relationships, associations etc…) is ever increasing our daily load of responsibilities. This leaves us with two polarities on a continuum. On one end; one can simply transfer responsibilities on the back bencher and simply act on one’s personal needs. Whilst on the other end of the continuum individuals can immerse in their responsibilities without taking notice of what s/he needs.
Both ends of the continuum can be damaging to the individual in their own different ways. Let’s explore the first side of the continuum. Ignoring responsibilities and focussing exclusively on our needs can be detrimental to our functioning. This is due to the fact that individuals would not function well in their systems if responsibilities are not adhered to. The reason behind this is due to the fact that if someone is focussing exclusively on their needs whilst ignoring their responsibilities. Thus ones duties will not be done and the consequences of this will ensue.
Whilst on the other end of the continuum when individuals immerse themselves in their responsibilities without taking notice of their needs, this can also be problematic. The reason behind this is ignoring or suppressing your needs can lead to stress, anxiety and depressive symptoms amongst others. This occurs as the body is trying to communicate with you about what it needs. Once someone suppress their need/s then it most probably will find other ways to express itself.
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Karl Grech is a counsellor. He offers counselling to both individuals and couples within Willingness. He can be contacted on karl@willingness.com.mt. You can visit his profile on: https://zme.tec.mybluehost.me/willingnessmt/team/karl-grech/