Working within the field of domestic violence, one notices that the overarching majority of clients have tended to be female clients. Even if one had to do a quick google image search one will realise that the way in which society portrays DV is stereotypical in which the male is always the aggressor and the female is always the victim.
So this begs the question: are females the only victims of domestic violence? This is definitely not the case. In the span of three years up until 2016 – 1,083 cases of domestic violence have been reported by males. However there is a tendency for males to endure the violence and shrug off its contingencies. The reasons are varied, however one can empathise with their reasons to remain silent. Male clients might feel that the majority of society would think less of a male who experiences domestic violence, as it does not fit into traditional gender roles.
Hence, reinforcing the stereotype that men cannot experience domestic violence is not representing the hard evidence. This stereotype in end of itself is creating isolated male victims who are not open and encouraged to seek the appropriate help. Some might say so what? He is a man he can take it! This is not acceptable! As any individual experiencing such abuse and violence can suffer serious contingencies if left unnoticed such as; anxiety, depression, isolation, physical illnesses and in some instances even suicidal ideation.
If you are reading this and you know of someone who is experiencing domestic violence, I urge you to try and increase the discourse of seeking professional help. In order to help the individual build the dignity and respect, which the perpetrator has in actual fact taken from the partner.
– Karl Grech is a counsellor. He offers counselling to both individuals and couples within Willingness. He can be contacted on karl@willingness.com.mt.