Have you ever given much thought about what it is that turns you on? Do you know what your erotic blueprint is? The concept of The Erotic Blueprint was developed by a somatic sexologist named Jaiya, after years of studying and researching sexuality, arousal and pleasure. Just like people have different personality types, so does each and every person have their own erotic blueprint. Think of it as your sexual personality type – learning about who you are erotically can be an entirely new way to be with your own body.
The more you learn about and understand your sexual needs, desires and limits, the better you can understand what gives you pleasure. This can help to facilitate communication with your partner about your turn-ons, your turn-offs, and hopefully also aid you in exploring new and fun ways to improve your sex life! The following are the five erotic blueprints and some further information about them:
1. Energetic
People with an energetic blueprint are aroused by space, anticipation and teasing. They are capable of having an orgasm without being touched and may have sexual connections that are deeply emotional or spiritual. Some tips for people with an energetic blueprint are to incorporate eye contact, breathwork and a hovering touch to increase intimacy between partners.
2. Sensual
The sensual erotic blueprint enjoys utilising their five senses of taste, smell, touch, sight, and sound to enhance their sexual experiences. You can enhance, tease or deprive the senses using different forms of play. Some examples include using blindfolds, ice cubes, or even some pleasant smells and music to play with your or your partner’s senses.
3. Sexual
Those with a sexual blueprint tend to focus on genital stimulation and orgasm as a way of achieving pleasure. You and your partner can enjoy anything from penetration, to masturbation, to oral sex, and everything in between. You may also enjoy watching ethical porn as a way to get new ideas of enjoying sex, or even incorporate sex toys to heighten your sexual experience, whether alone or with a partner.
4. Kinky
Individuals with a kinky sexual blueprint typically enjoy activities that would be regarded as deviant or outside of the social norm. They may enjoy activities such as role play, engaging in power exchange dynamics, or other psychological and sensation play. It is common for people with this blueprint to enjoy activities involving BDSM – bondage and disciple, domination and submission, or sadism and masochism.
5. Shapeshifter
Shapeshifters are those who enjoy all of the above ways of having sex. They can be aroused by a variety of things and are typically curious and craving new experiences when it comes to sex. If you are a shapeshifter, it can a good idea to have a partner who is equally open to exploring new sexual experiences, and create a sexual bucket list of all the activities that you may want to try together.
Figuring out who you are, even yourself as an erotic being is another way that you can nurture and care for yourself and your relationships! It can help you have a fulfilling sexual relationship, whether on your own or with a partner. Discovering and exploring your erotic blueprint can help you and your partner understand each other’s needs and make the necessary adjustments so that the both of you have a more satisfying and pleasurable experience when it comes to sex.
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Pamela Borg is a counsellor who enjoys working therapeutically with adults experiencing various issues. These include general mental health and wellbeing, gender, sexuality, relationship issues.
References:
Jaiya. (2021). The Origins of The Erotic Blueprint Types™. Retrieved from: https://missjaiya.com/the-origins-of-the-erotic-blueprint-types/
LeClaire, J. (2022). The 5 Erotic Blueprints: What They Are and How to Find Yours. Retrieved from: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/erotic-blueprints