Why Kids Struggle to Switch Off From Screens

In today’s digital world, it’s common for children to spend hours in front of screens—watching videos, playing games, or using social media. While technology can be fun and educational, many parents notice how hard it is for kids to disconnect from devices. The struggle to unplug is more than just stubbornness—it’s linked to how screen exposure affects the brain, attention, and emotional development.

The Brain’s Reward System

Digital content is designed to be highly engaging. Games, apps, and videos use features like rewards, bright visuals, and constant updates to keep users coming back. Each time a child scores points in a game or gets a “like” on a video, the brain releases dopamine, a chemical that creates feelings of pleasure and reward (Common Sense Media, 2022).

1) Why Kids Can’t Switch Off Screens Calmly

Over time, this reward system becomes activated so frequently that kids crave more screen time just to feel “normal.” This constant stimulation makes it hard for the brain to enjoy quieter, slower-paced activities like reading or outdoor play. Children often feel bored or restless when asked to stop using screens because those activities don’t offer the same immediate reward.

Struggles With Patience and Focus

Screens teach children to expect instant gratification. Many online games and apps give immediate feedback—quick wins, fast loading times, and endless options. As a result, kids may become frustrated with activities that require patience or deeper focus, like homework or conversations.

1) Why Kids Can’t Switch Off Screens Easily

Research suggests that too much screen time can negatively affect a child’s attention span and make it harder for them to engage in real-life tasks that aren’t instantly rewarding (Australian Broadcasting Corporation, 2023). This can create tension at home, especially when children are asked to stop doing something they enjoy and shift to something more effortful.

Emotional Regulation and Sleep

Screens are often used as a way for kids to escape boredom, stress, or big emotions. However, relying on devices for emotional comfort may prevent them from developing healthy coping strategies. When the screen is taken away, some children become irritable or anxious, not because they’re misbehaving, but because they haven’t learned how to self-regulate without it (Raising Children Network, 2022).

1) Why Kids Can’t Switch Off Screens Before Bedtime

Additionally, screens can interfere with sleep. The blue light from screens affects melatonin, the hormone that signals the body it’s time for rest. Poor sleep can lead to mood swings, lower self-control, and more screen cravings the next day.

What Parents Can Do

Helping kids switch off starts with setting boundaries. Create clear, consistent rules about screen time, including device-free zones like bedrooms or dinner tables.

1) Help Kids Switch Off Screens With Fun Alternatives

Offer engaging alternatives—like crafts, outdoor activities, or quiet reading—and model healthy screen habits yourself. Switching off won’t always be easy, but with patience and structure, children can learn to enjoy balance between digital and real-world activities.

Written by Mandy Brincat

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Mandy Brincat is a Gestalt psychotherapist who enjoys working therapeutically with adults on various issues. These include general mental health and wellbeing. She also has experience working with anxiety, victims of domestic violence and eating disorders.

References

1. Australian Broadcasting Corporation. (2023). Why screen time is making it harder for children to focus. https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/why-screen-time-is-making-it-harder-for-children-to-focus/102529524
2. Common Sense Media. (2022). The addiction factor: How screen time affects kids’ brains. https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/the-addiction-factor-how-screen-time-affects-kids-brains
3. Raising Children Network. (2022). Screen time and mental health in children and teenagers. https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/play-media-technology/screen-time-health-wellbeing/screen-time-and-mental-health