No, there’s no spelling mistake in the title. This article is about masturdating – a word that was first used on an American television show in 2015, which simply means ‘going out alone’. When was the last time you enjoyed your own company? Do you remember ever taking yourself out on a date or treating yourself to something that you enjoy? You do not have to wait for someone to ask you out to be able to enjoy yourself. You can also enjoy some quality time by yourself, with yourself, and still have a great time!

Unfortunately, going out alone does not seem to be a popular option for many. Most would prefer eating out at a restaurant, grabbing a drink or going to the cinema with family, a group of friends or a romantic date. However, going out by yourself is not always a bad thing. It actually has a lot of benefits, both for those who are single, as well as those in a committed relationship.

Here are a few reasons why masturdating is beneficial for you:

You discover yourself: Spending time on your own is great way of having quality time with yourself and getting to know who you are as a person. You get to know what you like, what you don’t like, and what makes you happy. It is a chance to get to know yourself on a deeper level, and it can be a very empowering and liberating thing to experience. Perhaps you learn that you enjoy taking car rides on your own, or going to dine at your favourite restaurant by yourself. You can also take some time and start journaling your thoughts and emotions as a way of getting to know yourself further and get in touch with parts of yourself that you may have not known before.

You get some time to rest: Between work, social events, and other commitments, life can sometimes become draining and therefore spending some time on your own might actually be beneficial. Whether you decide to stay at home to catch up on your favourite series, or you plan to go out to the art gallery to watch a popular exhibit, it is a great way to regain some of the energy you have been putting out into the other areas of your life. Your body and your mind will thank you for this!

You save money: Although this may be considered a selfish reason for masturdating, the financial aspect of going out on your own can actually be rather rewarding. You work hard for the money you earn, so what better way to spend your income other than getting to do the things you enjoy? Maybe you decide to treat yourself to that dream holiday that you’ve always wanted to go on, or perhaps you may decide to save up some of your salary for a bigger future goal. You are the boss of your own life and you get to decide on what you want to do with your time and money!

Pamela is a counsellor who enjoys working therapeutically with adults experiencing various issues. These include general mental health and wellbeing, gender, sexuality, relationship issues.  


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