Non-consummation
It is generally understood that non-consummation refersĀ to a situation in which vaginal-penile sexual intercourseĀ in a committed intimate relationship has not taken place.Ā Historically and by definition non-consummation has alwaysĀ been applicable to heterosexual couples ā In the UK, non-Ā consummation in a same sex couple marriage is not groundsĀ for annulment as it is in a heterosexual couple.Ā Some of the most common presentations in both men andĀ women as to why a relationship may not be consummatedĀ are: sexual phobia, vaginismus, premature ejaculation,Ā inhibited sexual desire, sexual trauma, sexual ignorance,Ā fear of pregnancy, family of origin, contamination fear,Ā erectile dysfunction and dyspareunia (painful intercourse).
ItĀ is important to note that non-consummation can also happenĀ because of a choice one makes to be celibate, and whenĀ this choice is agreed upon with both partners then it is notĀ problematic and it can be positive, empowering and lead toĀ growth. The couple may need normalizing that a fulfilling sexĀ life does not need to involve penetration.Ā When this happens in a couple and they find it problematic,Ā then itās best to consult a psychosexual therapist forĀ relationship work. One of the first couple of things to do is toĀ rule out any organic cause from either partner and exploreĀ the wider cultural and religious context.